Shopping and eventually buying an engagement is a pretty big deal. This is after all one of the most important pieces of jewellery you’ll ever by in your life excluding your wedding rings. Of course, actually proposing is very exciting (providing she says yes!) but the actual build up can be very stressful.

Here are some of the experiences you are likely go through when you’re thinking about popping the question.

Suddenly any conversation about jewellery will become interesting

Once you have decided to propose conversations about jewellery become very instantly interesting. Whether she’s talking about her friend’s engagement ring or commenting on another random item of jewellery, you’ll be listening intently to try to find out her likes and dislikes. Is it something vintage looking she’s after or is it more modern, what shape she might like? You’ll be looking for any sort of hints which may point you in the right direction.

Asking for permission will feel awkward

No matter how long you’ve been together whether it’s for five years or 4 months asking her parents for permission will be awkward and uncomfortable. Despite this, do it anyway! In my opinion, this is one tradition that shouldn’t be lost. Doing so shows respect and is likely to go along way with her family. I did and I know that as a father, I will be expecting my daughters future husband to do the same and if he didn’t he would certainly go down in my estimations!

All diamonds will look the same at fist

Diamonds, at least at first will all look very similar, but you’ll soon come to realise that they are all very different. Diamonds are not all the same each will have a different cut, carat, clarity and colour and a good jeweller, like myself, will be able to educate you on these and ensure that you get the best for your money.

Going custom sounds expensive but it’s not

The word custom does not have to mean expensive. In fact, as a personal jeweller I create custom engagement rings all the time, for all sorts of people with very different budgets. Creating and designing your own engagement ring is far more personal in comparison choosing one from a store. That’s not to say that an engagement ring from a store isn’t just as nice, but the fact that you put in the extra work to make your partner the ring of her dreams is definitely going to earn you some brownie points!

You’ll be exhausted by the time it comes to plan the proposal

All the planning and the stress of picking and buying the ring will leave you feeling like you need more than a good night’s rest. However, just when you think it’s all over, you’ll remember that you then have to plan the proposal itself! It doesn’t need to be super elaborate, but do take the time to again consider what she would like. Will it be something very private or something public, will she be expecting her family to be involved? These are just some of the questions you should ask yourself.

Hopefully, now if you are in the process of proposing or whenever the time comes at least you’ll feel a little less alone and a little more sane!